Ontem de manhã, apanhei isto no Twitter:
"Imagine…. It’s 11:15 AM. You call Bob, a business associate, and ask if he’ll meet you for lunch at Tobey’s Grill at noon to discuss a project you’re both working on that is of high priority. He agrees. You finish up what you’re doing and roll into Tobey’s parking lot at 11:55. You go in and get a table for two and begin checking out the menu. You look at your watch. It’s 12:10. No Bob. You pull out your iPhone and start playing with a few apps. You look at your watch again. It’s 12:25. Still no Bob."
Ao longo do texto a autora apresenta esta tabela em sucessivos estágios de desenvolvimento:
"So first they recognize that the exact same situation can result in many different feelings. Second, they see that their thoughts are not their feelings.Thoughts are things we tell ourselves in our heads. Feelings are sensations we experience in our bodies....the situation is not the cause of our feelings. If this were true, then we would have the same feelings for the same situation all the time. We can see from the exercise that this is not true—that people experience many different feelings given the exact same situation. We can also easily imagine that the same people could have different feelings about the same situation on a different day....the root of our feelings lies within us, not in the situations or people around us. Our feelings are connected to our own internal needs. By identifying and articulating our own needs, we take responsibility for our feelings. Needs, as defined here, are not desires, wants, or wishes....The causes of our feelings are more closely related to our own needs than to the situation or to Bob. The situation acts as a trigger, a stimulus that activates our awareness of whether our needs are met or unmet."
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