"it’s important to realize that we don’t get over it. We get on with it"

"in dealing with the aftermath of trauma, it’s important to realize that we don’t get over it. We get on with it.
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She did one of the key things that survivors do in the aftermath: Trust the process. Let go of the outcome. Whatever happens, happens. Walk the walk. Pretend. Imagine. She gradually grew stronger. ...
And significantly, being engaged in directed action, carrying out a deliberate plan, gave her a new sense of control that she had been forced to abandon when she was an invalid. Her feelings became more predictable. The rational began to dominate as the peaks of high emotion moved into the background.
It is well known that what you do with the body deeply influences the way you think and feel. If you act strong, you feel stronger. If you act happy, you feel happier. If you move your facial muscles into an imitation of a smile for a time (say, by biting on a pencil), you gradually start to feel better.
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How well a person does after a crisis has a lot to do with the attitude and personality she has developed over a lifetime. Eileen was lucky. Her focus, optimism, and capacity for hard work combined with her inborn tendencies and created a person who could take something really bad and turn it to her advantage. Several years later, looking back at the events of her life, Eileen reflected on how the experience had helped her reinvent herself.
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“Rather than letting her experience define her life, she came to regard it as “a platform for growth.”

Trechos retirados de "Surviving Survival: The Art and Science of Resilience" de Laurence Gonzalez