- After Coronavirus, Young Chinese Consumers Are Selling Their Goods
- The Small-Business Die-Off Is Here
- Mais de 100 mil portugueses pediram o subsídio de desemprego desde março
- Segurança Social pagou lay-off a 65 mil empresas
- Tribunal alemão dá três meses ao BCE para corrigir programa de compra de dívida (Afinal, quem paga manda)
Depois, dei um salto rápido ao "Surving Survival" de Laurence Gonzales onde ainda tive tempo de sublinhar duas mensagens, uma delas foi esta:
"Intuition,” Kathy wrote, “is crucial to healing.” She stayed on her task of survival, imagining a future in which she was alive, robust. Survivors who are shipwrecked at sea tell of keeping themselves going by daydreaming of what they’ll do in the future."
A outra mensagem poderia ser usada pelo turismo e dá título ao capítulo - "TRAVEL IS a time-honored strategy for healing." Não a desenvolvo mais aqui porque merece outro enquadramento.
Por fim, usei os últimos 4 km para ler mais uns trechos de “The Inner Game of Tennis” de W. Timothy Gallwey, livro que me foi fortemente recomendado, apesar de eu não jogar ténis. E começo a perceber o porquê do conselho.
Consideremos então a situação de um empresário de uma PME, neste momento. Ele sabe que aquele slogan parvo, "Vamos todos ficar bem!" não se aplica a quem não vive do orçamento de estado. Perante os sinais sombrios que tem pela frente é capaz de esmorecer e querer desistir. E talvez para alguns desistir seja uma forma de ganhar forças para um novo empreendimento futuro. Como aprendi com Popper, com os humanos, são as nossas hipóteses que morrem. E vivemos para experimentar novas hipóteses.
"What I mean by judgment is the act of assigning a negative or positive value to an event. In effect it is saying that some events within your experience are good and you like them, and other events in your experience are bad and you don’t like them. ... Thus, judgments are our personal, ego reactions to the sights, sounds, feelings and thoughts within our experience.
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Then he tries hard, giving himself instructions as he does so. Finally he evaluates again. Obviously the mind is anything but still and the body is tight with trying. If the shot is evaluated as good, Self 1 starts wondering how he hit such a good shot; then it tries to get his body to repeat the process by giving self-instructions, trying hard and so on. Both mental processes end in further evaluation, which perpetuates the process of thinking and self-conscious performance. As a consequence, the player’s muscles tighten when they need to be loose, strokes become awkward and less fluid, and negative evaluations are likely to continue with growing intensity.
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It is interesting to see how the judgmental mind extends itself. It may begin by complaining, “What a lousy serve,” then extend to, “I’m serving badly today.” After a few more “bad” serves, the judgment may become further extended to “I have a terrible serve.” Then, “I’m a lousy tennis player,” and finally, “I’m no good.” First the mind judges the event, then groups events, then identifies with the combined event and finally judges itself.
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As a result, what usually happens is that these self-judgments become self-fulfilling prophecies. That is, they are communications from Self 1 about Self 2 which, after being repeated often enough, become rigidified into expectations or even convictions about Self 2. Then Self 2 begins to live up to these expectations. If you tell yourself often enough that you are a poor server, a kind of hypnotic process takes place. It’s as if Self 2 is being given a role to play—the role of bad server—and plays it to the hilt, suppressing for the time being its true capabilities. Once the judgmental mind establishes a self-identity based on its negative judgments, the role-playing continues to hide the true potential of Self 2 until the hypnotic spell is broken. In short, you start to become what you think.
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Be clear about this: letting go of judgments does not mean ignoring errors. It simply means seeing events as they are and not adding anything to them. [Moi ici: Como não recordar uma e outra vez Stephen Covey e a sua mensagem - O que interessa não é o que nos acontece, o que interessa é o que fazemos com o que nos acontece. Por outro lado, como dizem que os chineses escrevem, crise pode ser oportunidade] ... If the judgment process could be stopped with the naming of the event as bad, and there were no further ego reactions, then the interference would be minimal. But judgmental labels usually lead to emotional reactions and then to tightness, trying too hard, self-condemnation, etc.
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Judgment results in tightness, and tightness interferes with the fluidity required for accurate and quick movement. Relaxation produces smooth strokes and results from accepting your strokes as they are, even if erratic."[Moi ici: Sem relaxamento, como abrir espaço para intuição, como perceber que, como o que temos à mão, podemos fazer limonada, em vez de continuar a enterrar recursos financeiros e mentais a tentar fazer laranjada quando nos calharam limões]
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